So I had seen a lot of great reviews popping up all over the place for blogger Mark Manson’s “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life.” But it wasn’t until I heard
my fiancé a friend of mine (who will remain nameless because she doesn’t want to admit to purchasing a book with a four-letter word on the cover) talking about how eye-opening the book had been for her, that I decided to check it out.
The basic premise of Manson’s book is that we all have a limited amount of time and energy on planet earth—a limited number of f**ks to give, as he bluntly and humorously puts it—so we need to make them count.
When we are able to come to terms with the fact that life is tough, accept that we are flawed human beings who will fail at times, let go of chasing things like status and more “stuff,” and get past this insatiable need to impress everyone else, then we are free to live a life that matters. A life that is more fulfilling to us, and one that enriches the lives of those around us.
I’ve never had a problem with worrying about the opinions of others too much. For most of my life, I prided myself to some degree in being able to let opinions and criticisms and judgment from others roll off my back.
Or so I thought.
When you go through an ordeal like a divorce or public failure, people tend to want to weigh in on the situation—whether in the form of ridicule and gossip, or well-intentioned people who offer “advice” on a matter they likely know very little about. What I realized in my own life is that I had been internalizing a lot of those comments and criticisms, and that other people’s perception was affecting me more than I admitted. This book was the wake-up call that I needed.
If you’re struggling with some of the same things (and if you’re human, you undoubtedly are) I highly recommend that you grab a copy of “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.” It’s a witty and practical read with some great academic research behind it, too.
We only get one shot at this. Make it count.