Who’s ex is worse?1 min read

When I talk to other men who have gone through a divorce the conversation quickly turns into a “who’s-ex-is-worse” war.

“I hate that B*^ch!” they’ll say about the woman they built a life with.

Sure, when my wife and I first separated, I had the same sentiment.

But I decided to call this stupid conversation what it is: the pain of rejection.

I’d spent more than 20 years building a life, raising kids, giving everything I had to my ex-wife—the rejection that it wasn’t enough was numbing.

Bury the pain. Down deep. Call it her fault.

That way, you won’t have to face the truth. The pain has little to with her, it has everything to do with my own inadequacies, insecurities, fears.

Blaming her, joining in on the “I hate that b*^ch talk” does nothing for you. It definitely doesn’t help you make a comeback.

The only way to make a comeback is to change your view. Stop looking at your ex-wife and what she may have done (or not done) to you. Instead, look at the most incredible people in your life. The people you wouldn’t have without her—your kids.

And they deserve the best version of their dad. They deserve a dad who doesn’t contribute to finger-pointing conversations.

Just because you’ve been through a terrible divorce—and I believe you, your divorce was terrible—you don’t get a free pass to be a sucky dad.

Next time you’ve found yourself in the middle of a “who’s-ex-is-worse” war, stop. Change your view, take responsibility for who you can be: a man who has defied the odds and made an incredible comeback.

By | 2018-09-12T15:23:39-05:00 August 10th, 2018|Articles|

About the Author:

Keith Glines
My world turned upside down and I was forced to start over. Today, I'm resolved my life is no more than a tool to show others adversity, loss, hurt or rejection mold you into what you should be. That's what led me to create a place for men to find their own purpose. I would be nothing without those experiences and the people that they have led me to. I get to do life with the Love of my life, Stephanie, who has taught me what real love looks like, my son, Austin(19), my boisterous daughters Annabelle, (17), Ava (14) and my full-of-life bonus daughter, Jane Addison (10). It's these people I owe everything to. The world needs people with the guts to make a Comeback so join me while I make mine.

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